Colorado Domestic Violence Laws

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Overview

Understanding Colorado Domestic Violence Laws

Domestic violence happens to people in all classes, statuses, and ranks in life, regardless of age, gender, race, religion, education, profession, or socioeconomic status.

The sad reality is that one in four women in the U.S. will experience domestic violence in their lifetime, resulting in an estimated 1.3 million women becoming victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year. Unfortunately, situations like these occur in our state, as well, and so it is important that if you find yourself in that situation that you contact an attorney experienced with Colorado domestic violence laws.

Most domestic violence incidences occur between people that have an ongoing familial or intimate relationship. Most cases of domestic violence have never been reported to police and occur behind closed doors, out of the public eye. Probably the most important statistical predictive indicator of domestic violence is exposure to domestic violence as a child. An estimated 3.3 million children witness violence against their mother or female caretaker by a family member each year. Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults.

Temporary Restraining Orders

Protective orders, commonly referred to as restraining orders, impose legal consequences upon alleged abusers if they contact their victim. Civil protection orders in Colorado seek to protect the person pursuing the order from threats or abuse, including domestic violence. A restraining order prohibits an alleged abuser from contacting, harassing, stalking, threatening, or intimidating a victim. There are several types of protective and restraining orders in the state of Colorado aimed at protecting victims of domestic abuse and violence.

According to Colorado domestic violence laws, a temporary restraining order does not require definitive evidence of domestic violence. Temporary restraining orders are designed to protect victims of domestic violence until they can get a hearing in front of a judge to make their case as to why the temporary order should become a permanent order. The process of obtaining a temporary restraining order involves filing out and filing a Verified Complaint listing relevant information such as:

  • Reason(s) for seeking the restraining order;
  • Where the protected persons reside and work;
  • An affidavit regarding children, if the parties have minor children;
  • The most recent incident that occurred resulting in the request for a restraining order;
  • The most serious incident that cause the request for the protective order;
  • Any past incidents of violence and/or threats; and
  • Whether there are any other protective orders in place regarding the same parties.

Once a party files a Verified Complaint, the party seeking protection must then appear, usually the same day, in court. The party seeking protection must present the facts and allegations of their case to a judge who will decide whether to grant a temporary protection order, which will restrain the alleged offender from contacting the party seeking protection. This hearing is generally held ex parte, meaning the party against whom the protection order is being sought is not present. A magistrate or judge will likely ask a few, limited questions about whether the protected party is in immediate fear for their safety. When a magistrate or judge finds an immediate danger exists and a temporary restraining order is needed to: prevent assaults, threatened bodily harm, domestic abuse, emotional abuse of the elderly or an at-risk adult, sexual assault or abuse, and/or stalking, then a temporary restraining order will be entered.

Once a court enters a temporary restraining order, it will then immediately set another hearing date for the parties to appear in court to present their evidence. At this second hearing, the court will decide if there is sufficient evidence to make the temporary order permanent. A temporary restraining order is not enforceable until the protected party has the accused abuser (restrained party) personally served with the order.

Permanent Restraining Order

Whenever a judge or magistrate issues a temporary restraining order, under Colorado domestic violence laws, they also schedule a permanent restraining order hearing. These hearings typically occur within 14 days of a temporary restraining order being issued and are meant to provide the accused perpetrator of domestic violence an opportunity to argue against having the restraining order made permanent.

At the permanent restraining order hearing the party seeking to have a restraining order imposed has the burden of proof which means they must show by a preponderance of the evidence (more likely than not) that they are in imminent danger of further abuse or threats by the accused if the protection order is not made permanent. Therefore, it is important that the protected person is prepared for this hearing with exhibits and any possible witnesses.

If a judge or magistrate determines sufficient evidence exists, a permanent restraining order will be issued restraining the offending party from engaging in the offensive conduct. If sufficient evidence does not exist, the temporary restraining order will be allowed to expire or dismissed, and no permanent restraining order will be issued.

Where a restraining order is made permanent, the restrained party may not seek a modification of the protection order for two years. However, the individual who requested the protection order (the protected party) may seek a modification or dismissal at any time.

Due to the inherent safety concerns for the person seeking the protection order, and the long-term legal implications tied to having a permanent restraining order entered against the accused, it is advisable for both the accused and the accuser to obtain qualified attorney representation and advice regarding Colorado domestic violence laws.

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Consequences of a Permanent Restraining Order

Firearms: If a person has a permanent restraining order against them that is related to domestic violence, that person will not be able to own, possess, or control a firearm, gun or rifle;

Employment: Employers often run background checks on new hires and employees. Permanent restraining orders will show up on a standard background check and may impact a person’s employability;

Child Custody: Permanent restraining orders may create issues with child custody in a pending divorce or current child visitation or parenting plan;

Housing: A restrained party is not allowed to reside in the same home as the protected party and will need to find other accommodations. Furthermore, landlords may elect to not allow a person to rent a property if they do not pass a background check.

Taking Revenge on Exes By Using Indecent Photographs

Did your ex-lover, friend, or spouse post explicit photos of you on the Internet? If you have been victimized by a former lover or friend who has used your “private” photos and videos against you for profit or revenge you may have options. Colorado domestic violence laws have been updated to accommodate this type of abuse so you can have the ability to pursue a civil case, as well as a criminal case against the perpetrator. In 2014 Colorado passed two statutes making that type of “revenge” a crime: C.R.S. § 18-7-107, which governs the posting of private images for harassment, and C.R.S. § 18-7-108 which prohibits and criminalizes posting private images on the Internet for financial gain. At least one person has been prosecuted under this law already.

Your body, your person, and your dignity deserve respect under law, and thankfully Colorado domestic violence laws have been enacted to prevent this type of abuse and mental harm from continuing to happen to people, just like yourself, who believed they were engaging in an activity with someone trustworthy. Our right to privacy is important and each of us has reasonable expectations regarding that privacy when we are engaged in a consensual relationship with someone. The breaking of that trust can be heartbreaking and cause damage to not only one’s psyche, but in many other ways.

An attorney specializing in privacy or criminal law can be of help to you at this time by helping you to make a sound legal argument that associates all of the required elements needed to establish that a criminal or civil harm was done to you. In order to create your complaint your attorney must seek to establish that the images posted fall under the categories listed in the statutes, that you are identifiable, the intent, and your lack of consent. As these necessary elements are pulled together, a case emerges.

There is a reasonable expectation of privacy under law that Colorado’s legal system now supports and defends. If your privacy and consent has been ignored and abused you have been victimized, but you do not have to remain a victim. You can fight back.

Divorce can be an extremely emotional, turbulent time for many people. Reactions to the stress of divorce may differ, but most people experience the feelings of anger (even rage), frustration, anxiety, depression, and loss. If your spouse is quick to ignite, be particularly cautious during this period of time and pay close attention to the warning signs that can lead to domestic violence.

Domestic violence is usually a male vs. female encounter, but certainly women can also be the perpetrators. The key to stopping it is recognizing the escalation and acting before you become a victim. This can be easier said than done, but heightened vigilance and common-sense measures, such as avoiding possibly inflammatory situations, can make a big difference. If you are threatened or attacked, immediately contact the local authorities and consider securing your safety in a safe house designed to help victims of such violence.

Order of Protection

If your spouse becomes violent, or threatens violence, toward you or your children, you can obtain a restraining order to keep him or her away. Such an order called an Order of Protection, prevents your spouse from contacting you, as well as any other person protected by the order. This type of restraining order is appropriate whenever an act or threat of violence occurs against you or a family member. In this instance, the term “family member” is broadly interpreted to include not only yourself, but also a relative, a previous spouse, someone with whom you presently live or have lived in the past, or even someone with whom you are currently (or were in the past) romantically involved.

The victim, as well as anyone else protected under the order, is instructed to keep the restraining order with him or her at all times. If the defendant violates the order, he or she has committed a criminal act and will be arrested. It is important, however, to realize that even with the restraining order in effect, the victim should take every possible safety precaution.

What does the restraining order actually do? It requires that the defendant stay away from, and have no contact whatsoever with, the victim or anyone else listed on the order. It’s important for a defendant to be aware, however, that he or she could be arrested for violating the restraining order even if the victim initiated the contact between them.

Steps to Take During A Divorce

It’s a good idea to keep a diary of the exact dates and a description of any incidents of domestic violence that occur during this period of time. Also keep track of any stalking (including cyber stalking) and other forms of harassment, plus threats of violence. Be sure to write down any examples of the defendant’s alcohol or drug abuse and his or her violent behavior or threats of violence against anyone else. In addition, be careful to save your email correspondence (or any other written exchanges) with the defendant.

Child Custody Issues

For obvious reasons, the courts are reluctant to award custody or joint custody to a defendant if there is evidence of domestic violence. If the court finds that a person is a perpetrator of an act of domestic violence, that person must be able to establish, and the judge must be satisfied, that the proposed defendant’s parenting time will not endanger the child in any way. When and if the parent can meet this burden of proof, the court will allow the defendant to have contact with the child ”“ and possibly joint custody ”“ depending upon the circumstances. Of course, appropriate conditions designed to protect both the child and the other parent from harm will be placed on the parenting time that is granted.

If you have a custody matter that involves Colorado domestic violence laws, you should seek the assistance of a skilled attorney at Divorce Matters®. Getting an attorney on board sooner, rather than later, can make a big difference.

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FAQ

How can I get a restraining order?

A restraining order can be obtained by filling out an official complaint form, including any other required forms, and filing it with the clerk of the court. At Divorce Matters®, we can handle this process for you. A judge will review the request the same day it is filed and make a decision. If the judge approves it, he will issue a temporary restraining order

Can my restraining order also be applied to my kids?

Courts may act to protect children from being exposed to domestic violence between spouses through a “care and control” provision, where temporary custody can potentially be awarded to the parent seeking the temporary protection order. These provisions only run for 120 days. If you want to get a permanent protection order for your children, the only way to do so is if the children have been the direct victims of abuse or violence.

What are the grounds for getting a restraining order?

According to Colorado law, a restraining order can be issued to prevent assaults, threatened bodily harm, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, and stalking. You must prove “imminent danger” for temporary restraining orders to be issued. There are specific legal definitions for each of these terms, so it is best to consult with a family law attorney to determine if you have grounds for getting a restraining order from your spouse.

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Douglas A. Thomas

Founding Partner

As founder of Divorce Matters®, my team of attorneys works with families in Colorado to help them achieve optimal outcomes in the highly emotional, individual, and sensitive area of family law, particularly divorce, child custody, and child support.

Professional and Community Associations

• Colorado Bar Association
• Arapahoe County Bar Association
• Colorado Defense Lawyers Association
• Defense Research Institute ”“ Member

Public & Speaking Engagements

Mr. Thomas has been a frequent speaker at the Colorado Defense Lawyers Association and numerous Continuing Legal Education seminars.

Bar Admissions

• Colorado
• U.S. District Court, Colorado

Education

• J.D., University of Denver, 1993
• B.A., New Mexico Highlands University, magna cum laude, 1989

Emily F. Ahnell

Partner and Managing Attorney

I began my practice after noticing a need for unbundled legal services. In addition to family law, I also defend employers and insurance carriers before administrative agencies and in civil litigation matters in Court.

I began my family law practice after noticing a need in the community for unbundled legal services. In addition to family law, I also defend employers and insurance carriers before administrative agencies and in civil litigation matters in Federal and State Courts.

Professional and Community Associations

• Colorado Bar Association
• Denver Bar Association
• Colorado Defense Lawyers Association
• Habitat for Humanity, Volunteer

Public & Speaking Engagements

Denver University Law Review, Staff Editor 2001-2002, General Editor 2002-2003

Bar Admissions

• Colorado
• U.S. District Court, Colorado

Education

• J.D., University of Denver, 2003
•B.A., University of Alabama, 1998 (Member of the Women’s Soccer Team)

Justin J. Oliver

Lead Attorney

As an attorney, I care about my clients and alleviating the problems they bring to me and ensure they receive nothing less than top-notch from when we first meet to the conclusion of their legal matter. From representing clients in divorces, custody disputes, protection order hearings, child and spousal support conflicts, parentage issues, and many other issues surrounding and concerning families here in Colorado, myself and the Divorce Matters® team are here for you.

I care about my clients and alleviating the problems they bring to me and ensure they receive nothing less than top-notch from when we first meet to the conclusion of their legal matter.

Professional and Community Associations

• Member, Colorado Bar Association
• Member, Larimer County Bar Association

Bar Admissions

• Colorado

Education

•J.D., Drake University Law School, 2014
• B.A., Sociology, Western State Colorado University, 2011

Removing Marital Property Before Divorce

Removing Marital Property Before Divorce

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Division of Marital Property

An important part of the divorce process in Colorado is figuring out how to divide the marital property. The procedure generally involves two steps. First, it must be determined what the marital property is. Second, the marital property must be divided equitably. But there are special things to consider when it comes to removing marital property before divorce. Let’s look at each of those steps more closely:

What is ‘Marital Property?

State law, specifically Colo. Rev. Stat. § 14-10-113(2), defines “marital property” as “all property acquired by either spouse subsequent to the marriage.” Anything that isn’t marital property is considered “separate property,” and will not be divided for property division in a divorce case.

Separate property is generally defined as being anything acquired by either spouse prior to getting married. It also includes certain types of property acquired during the marriage that is statutorily excluded from the marital property definition, such as property:

  • Acquired by gift, bequest, devise, or descent
  • Acquired in exchange for property acquired before the marriage or in exchange for property acquired by gift, bequest, devise, or descent
  • Acquired by a spouse after a decree of legal separation
  • Excluded by valid agreement of the parties (e.g., by a prenuptial agreement)

The division of assets in a divorce case is almost always harder and more emotionally taxing than it initially might seem. This is especially true for high-net-worth couples and couples who either jointly own a business or have complex business interests that are difficult to quantify monetarily. Unfortunately, it is also not uncommon for a spouse in a contentious divorce to either hide or undervalue assets, which can necessitate drawn-out litigation.

Equitable Division

Once the marital property has been identified and valued, it is then subject to equitable division by the courts – that is, if the couple hasn’t already divided it between themselves through mutual agreement via mediation. The word “equitably” in the context of divorce property division means that marital property must be divided fairly, but not necessarily 50-50.

Removing marital property before divorce is prohibited. By statute, a judge that is presiding over the dissolution of a marriage case in Colorado is required to consider a variety of factors in making sure that the marital property is divided in this way. Those factors – also from Colo. Rev. Stat. § 14-10-113 – are the contribution of each spouse during the marriage; the value of the property set apart to each spouse; the economic circumstances of each spouse at the time the marriage terminates; and any increases or decreases in the value of the separate property of either spouse during the marriage.

Marital Debt

It warrants mentioning here that any debt that was acquired during a marriage in Colorado becomes part of the equitable division equation during a divorce. In other words, a divorce court is empowered to allocate debt in a way that’s fair under the circumstances. A common misconception is that debt that’s been acquired in only one spouse’s name during the marriage is automatically classified as separate property and thus not subject to division. That isn’t necessarily true, and in fact, most debts acquired by either spouse during a marriage will be deemed marital property and divided accordingly.

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Not All Marital Property Is Created Equal

Complicating the process is the fact that all assets are not worth what they appear to be worth.

What if the marital property of a couple equals $800,000 and consists of:

  • Family home with $200,000 in equity,
  • Ski-condo with $200,000 in equity,
  • 401K with a current market value of $200,000, and
  • Savings account with $200,000.

Which would you take and why? The answer to that question depends on a number of factors.

  • Do you have a steady income to pay your bills?
  • Do you need the money to live on immediately?
  • Can you afford to maintain the family home? If so, what if there are unexpected costs associated with maintaining the family home?
  • If you sell the family home, will there be any capital gain taxes to pay? If so, what will they be?
  • Can you sell the family home?
  • If you sell the home, can you qualify for a mortgage on your own?
  • What if you try to sell the home and find out it needs a new roof and $30,000 in repairs?
  • If you sell the ski condo, will there be any capital gains to pay, and if so, how much? If you do not sell the ski condo, will you be able to rent it out and cover the costs to maintain it?
  • If you take the 401K and need the money to live on, will there be an early withdrawal penalty? Will you have to pay income tax on the amount withdrawn? If so, how much is the penalty, and what is the tax bill? Many people fail to realize until it is too late, that if they cash out their 401K, it might only be worth ½ of its market value after penalties and taxes are paid.

Personal Business Interests

If either you or your spouse owns a business, it can get even more complicated. When a business is involved, the parties usually need to hire an expert to determine the value of the business. Then, once the value of the business is determined, it can get even more difficult to determine how to divide the business.

Determine what Each Asset is Worth based on Your Circumstances

The division and removal of marital property can be complex and it usually takes an experienced lawyer to help you obtain a fair result. Therefore, before agreeing to any type of property settlement, make sure you have considered all factors that determine the value of each asset.

Separate Property

Determining what is separate property can be somewhat complicated, but most commonly it is any property owned before the marriage. It can also include certain types of property acquired during the marriage such as gifts and inheritance. For instance, a house you owned before the marriage is your separate property, but so is the money you inherited after you were married. This is because both inheritance and gifts to you are separate property. However, separate property can be converted to marital property, and in addition to that, it is your responsibility to prove that money or assets that you own are separate property. You will need to provide documentation of how you acquired the asset or money, and if you cannot the Court will consider it marital. Furthermore, if you combine the separate property with marital property, it can be construed as a gift to the marriage – therefore making the argument of removing marital property before divorce statute applicable. This is a common debate amongst parties when someone asserts that an asset is a separate property.

What Are Your Options with Property Before and After A Petition For Dissolution Is Filed?

Once someone files for divorce and serves the other party, a temporary injunction is put in place, and both parties have an obligation to preserve the marital estate, among other obligations. This means removing marital property before divorce is prohibited and you cannot start recklessly spending money in a manner different from the way you did before filing. You also cannot dispose of marital assets without the approval of the judge. Essentially, you should continue living as you did before, and any large or unusual purchases should be put on hold until you’re officially divorced. If there is an immediate need for something out of the ordinary, your attorney can guide you on the best course of action and perhaps negotiate a course of action with the opposing party.

What is not so obvious is what you can do before the divorce papers are served. Although it might seem like everything is fair game before someone is served with paperwork, that is not the case. In reality, if someone takes an action that only benefits them because they know or suspect that a divorce is coming the judge can account for that when dividing up the property. It is never advisable to dissipate marital assets in anticipation of a divorce.

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Gifts & Inheritance

In a dissolution of marriage, there are two different categories of property: marital and nonmarital (also referred to as separate property). In general, property that one spouse acquires by gift (or bequest, devise, or descent), is considered nonmarital property, regardless of whether it was acquired prior to or during the marriage. This means that gifts, ordinarily, are not taken into consideration for purposes of an equitable division of property, as the court can only divide marital property. Colorado law views inheritances as gifts.

However, gifts can lose their nonmarital status and become marital property. This may occur through commingling, change of title, or subsequent gifting. Commingling occurs when separate property becomes mixed with marital property, such that the separate property is so intertwined with the marital property that one can no longer discern its separate character. For example, if you receive a $25,000 cash gift from your parents (either before or during the marriage), but you then deposit or transfer that $25,000 into your joint bank account titled in both you and your spouse’s name that currently has $5,000. Then, through the years of marriage, both you and your spouse continuously deposit and withdraw money from the joint account. Eventually, unless you have kept an extremely detailed accounting, it will be impossible to tell what money was from your nonmarital gift. When commingling occurs, the other spouse has the ability to assert that all of the funds within this joint account, even though initially comprised mostly of nonmarital funds, are marital and subject to equitable distribution at divorce.

Conversely, when it comes to gifts from one spouse to the other, there exists a presumption that such gifts are marital property. The presumption does not apply, however, to “gifts of nonbusiness tangible personal property.” § 14-10-113(7)(a), C.R.S. Types of these gifts include furs, rings (including the engagement ring), artwork, and other tangible personal property gifts. For gifts under this category, the property is considered the nonmarital property of the recipient spouse (the spouse that received the gift from the other spouse). Additionally, when the presumption applies, i.e., when the property at issue is not a gift of “nonbusiness tangible personal property,” the presumption can only be overcome by “clear and convincing evidence;” otherwise, it is marital property.

What about joint gifts? If your spouse and you received joint gifts during the marriage, such as wedding presents, there is no assumption that gifts from the wife’s family and friends belong to the wife or that gifts from the husband’s family and friends belong to the husband. This very well may be the most equitable way to divide these types of gifts; however, there is no hard and fast rule.

Child Support and Gifts

While Colorado law regarding gifts and inheritances for division of property can be relatively straightforward, it can be much more complex for determining a spouse’s income for purposes of child support. In fact, the court is not required to consider gifts for purposes of determining a spouse’s income for child support purposes, unless the gift is regularly received from a dependable source. In re Marriage of Nimmo, 891 P.2d 1002 (Colo. 1995). Future gifts, in order to be considered as income, cannot be speculative whatsoever.

If, however, you or your spouse is to receive a one-time gift in the future, such as an inheritance or winning the lottery, the court may include the gift in the calculation of income for the year in which the gift will be received. In re A.M.D. (Casteel v. Davidson), 78 P.3d 741 (Colo. 2003). The court also has a few options in deciding how to apply this type of gift, particularly regarding interest accrued from the gift, in years subsequent to the one-time payment. See In re Marriage of Bohn, 8 P.3d 539 (Colo. App. 2000) (holding that the imputation of investment income is not automatic and only applies if a spouse invests a portion of the funds, in which case income from interest could be used as the spouse’s income); In re Marriage of Laughlin, 932 P.2d 858 (Colo. App. 1997) (holding that gross income for child support purposes can include the amount of income an asset could “reasonably” be expected to generate, even if that asset had been consumed prior to the determination of child support); In re Marriage of Bregar, 952 P.2d 783 (Colo. App. 1997) (holding that if income is imputed as a result of a large, one-time payment, the net amount received, after payment of taxes, should be used).

While perhaps not the most common example (even though we all may wish it were), lottery winnings are helpful in explaining the complexity further. “Monetary gifts,” in general, are included within the definition of “gross income” for purposes of child support. There is a narrow exclusion for lottery winnings, but the vast majority of the lottery winnings will be considered in calculating a spouse’s income. Where lottery winnings are paid out in equal periodic installments (such as monthly), the appropriate manner for including them as income will typically be the same, i.e., monthly. In re Marriage of McCord, 910 P.2d 85 (Colo. App. 1995). But, when lottery winnings are to be paid in a lump sum, a Colorado court has indicated that child support may be calculated by including the entire winnings in the spouse’s income for the year in which the lump sum was received, without deduction for tax withholding. In re Marriage of Bohn, 8 P.3d 539 (Colo. App. 2000). A court then has the aforementioned variety of options in how to assess the spouse’s future income.

Dealing with inheritances can be a bit trickier. The definition of income in section 14-10-115(5)(a)(1), C.R.S., does not include “inheritance,” but the statute specifically includes “monetary gifts” as income, and the Colorado Supreme Court has concluded that monetary inheritances fall within this definition. In re A.M.D. (Casteel v. Davidson), 78 P.3d 741 (Colo. 2003). “Monetary” inheritances include cash or “[a]ssets that can be easily converted to cash,” such as money markets, mutual funds, stocks, and bonds. If an inheritance is “monetary,” then, before the court can include the inheritance as income, it must examine the recipient spouse’s use of the money. If the recipient spouse uses the principal as a source of income to meet existing living expenses or to increase their standard of living, the expended principal should be included as gross income. On the other hand, if the spouse saves or invests the monetary inheritance, such reserved principal is not included in gross income, but the interest generated by the principal is considered income.

While gifts can be relatively straightforward for purposes of division of property, it is not overly difficult to convert something from what was once nonmarital property to marital property. More importantly, gifts can be quite complicated when it comes to determining a spouse’s income.

FAQ

Will all possessions be divided equally during a divorce?

Colorado Is an “equitable distribution” state. The court defines “equitable” as “that which is fair, but not necessarily equal.” Thus, marital assets in Colorado are not necessarily divided evenly in a 50/50 ratio. Additionally, only marital assets will be divided, separate assets will be kept separate.

Am I responsible for my spouse’s debt?

You and your spouse are both responsible for any debt incurred during the course of your marriage, regardless of whose name the debt is in. However, it is possible to negotiate how debt is handled during the divorce process. Contact our law firm for more information.

Will divorce affect my Social Security benefits?

Divorce can affect the amount of Social Security benefits you receive during retirement. Generally, if the marriage lasted for more than 10 years, spouses may be entitled to receive their ex-spouse’s Social Security benefits. This is a complex area of the law, so contact our law firm to set up a review of your unique situation.

What is a QDRO in divorce?

A Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) is a detailed order used for dividing up a retirement plan during a divorce. Retirement plans that were either obtained during the marriage, or have increased in value during the marriage, are generally considered marital property and can be subject to a QDRO. QDRO’s are specifically needed when splitting up a 401K plan or most pensions (defined benefit plan). However, they are not generally needed for dividing up IRA’s or Roth IRA’s.

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Bringing a Human Approach to Legal Services

Douglas A. Thomas

Founding Partner

As founder of Divorce Matters®, my team of attorneys works with families in Colorado to help them achieve optimal outcomes in the highly emotional, individual, and sensitive area of family law, particularly divorce, child custody, and child support.

Professional and Community Associations

• Colorado Bar Association
• Arapahoe County Bar Association
• Colorado Defense Lawyers Association
• Defense Research Institute ”“ Member

Public & Speaking Engagements

Mr. Thomas has been a frequent speaker at the Colorado Defense Lawyers Association and numerous Continuing Legal Education seminars.

Bar Admissions

• Colorado
• U.S. District Court, Colorado

Education

• J.D., University of Denver, 1993
• B.A., New Mexico Highlands University, magna cum laude, 1989

Emily F. Ahnell

Partner and Managing Attorney

I began my practice after noticing a need for unbundled legal services. In addition to family law, I also defend employers and insurance carriers before administrative agencies and in civil litigation matters in Court.

I began my family law practice after noticing a need in the community for unbundled legal services. In addition to family law, I also defend employers and insurance carriers before administrative agencies and in civil litigation matters in Federal and State Courts.

Professional and Community Associations

• Colorado Bar Association
• Denver Bar Association
• Colorado Defense Lawyers Association
• Habitat for Humanity, Volunteer

Public & Speaking Engagements

Denver University Law Review, Staff Editor 2001-2002, General Editor 2002-2003

Bar Admissions

• Colorado
• U.S. District Court, Colorado

Education

• J.D., University of Denver, 2003
•B.A., University of Alabama, 1998 (Member of the Women’s Soccer Team)

Justin J. Oliver

Lead Attorney

As an attorney, I care about my clients and alleviating the problems they bring to me and ensure they receive nothing less than top-notch from when we first meet to the conclusion of their legal matter. From representing clients in divorces, custody disputes, protection order hearings, child and spousal support conflicts, parentage issues, and many other issues surrounding and concerning families here in Colorado, myself and the Divorce Matters® team are here for you.

I care about my clients and alleviating the problems they bring to me and ensure they receive nothing less than top-notch from when we first meet to the conclusion of their legal matter.

Professional and Community Associations

• Member, Colorado Bar Association
• Member, Larimer County Bar Association

Bar Admissions

• Colorado

Education

•J.D., Drake University Law School, 2014
• B.A., Sociology, Western State Colorado University, 2011

How Do I Deal with a Vindictive Ex?

Going through a divorce is hard enough as it is, but when your spouse becomes vindictive, the process automatically becomes ten times harder. Vindictiveness can include all kinds of things, like removing your name from bank accounts, alienating the kids, making unfounded accusations, and even making unnecessary request of the court just to make your life a little harder. It can be hard to know the best way to deal with your vindictive ex, but in the end it’s pretty simple.

The Best Reaction is No Reaction

It can be hard not to react when it feels like your ex is trying to knock you down, but it truly is the best reaction in this scenario for a couple of reasons. You’ll save your own emotional energy if you aren’t arguing and fighting over everything your ex does and, if kids are involved, it will stop the kids from seeing the fighting.

Reduce Direct Interaction

Try to interact with your ex as little as possible. Once attorneys are involved, this should be pretty easy, as all communication can go through attorneys. If your ex continues to seek out direct interaction, you can always speak to your attorney about getting a protection order for your safety.

Record Interactions

With direct interaction limited, most communication will likely be digitally. Be sure to save those messages and emails, just in case they might prove useful in court.

Set Boundaries

This is the most important part! Your mental health can take a turn for the worse when dealing with a divorce, a vindictive ex, and every day life. Make sure to set boundaries on what you are and are not willing to do and deal with as you continue through the divorce process. Try not to compromise your own boundaries and don’t be afraid to speak to a therapist to help you out!

Dealing with a vindictive ex is incredibly time consuming and emotional! Don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Your attorney and the rest of your “divorce team” will be your saving grace!

Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month

Every year, RAINN, the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network, celebrates Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention month in April. Each year has its own theme and focus and this year, carrying over from last year, the focus is on sexual violence and harassment online. RAINN continues to advocate for those who are victims and wants to “[Build] Safe Online Spaces Together”. In creating these safe spaces, it is important to acknowledge what this kind of sexual violence involves. Online sexual abuse can be any type of harassment, exploitation or abuse that takes place through a screen. This can include:

  • Sending unwelcome messages about sex or hateful comments based on sex, gender identity, or sexual orientation
  • Sending unwanted requests for nude photos or videos
  • Performing sexual acts on webcam without the consent of everyone involved
  • Sharing private images or videos without the consent of everyone involved
  • Sharing porn in places where not everyone has consented to view it
  • Grooming children online to enable their sexual abuse on or offline

Online sexual violence does not necessarily have to occur entirely online. If part of the abuse takes place online, then it can fall into this category. As mentioned above, this also includes grooming children online to enable sexual violence against them in person. It is important to take this kind of sexual violence seriously. The viewpoint that this type of violence is not as harmful is incredibly dangerous. The same attitudes and beliefs that lead to sexual violence committed in person influence sexual violence online. It is incredibly important to take this kind of abuse seriously, especially when it comes to making victims feel heard. This abuse is just as serious and can even lead to physical violence. A safe online space is one that is inclusive, where everyone is treated with respect and dignity.

RAINN has initiatives throughout the year to help victims of rape, abuse, and incest, not just during Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month. To learn more about RAINN, what they do throughout the year, and what they’re doing this month, visit their website www.rainn.org 

What Types of Law Does Divorce Matters Practice?

Just from our name, it’s easy to tell that we excel in divorce law, but what other kinds of cases can Divorce Matters handle? We are a law firm specializing in family law. Family law covers a wide variety of different cases including:

Adoption

Estate Planning

Divisions of Marital Property

An important part of the divorce process in Colorado is figuring out how to divide marital property. The procedure generally involves two steps. First, it must be determined what marital property is. Second, the marital property must be divided equitably

Spousal Maintenance

In Colorado, neither spouse has an automatic right to maintenance. The court may award maintenance only if it finds that the spouse seeking maintenance lacks sufficient property to meet their reasonable needs and, in addition, is either unable to support themselves through appropriate employment or should not be required to seek employment because of child care responsibilities. Divorce Matters has lots of experience in Spousal Maintenance negotiations and our attorneys are the perfect choice to help you!

Child Custody

When children are involved, the divorce process doesn’t end once the final paperwork is filed. With children come often contentious and painful negotiations about and modification of parental rights, parenting time, and custody. Our team has deep experience dealing with child custody and parental rights issues and we believe it is our duty and an imperative to help couples address custody and rights issues in ways that reduce the impact of divorce and protect children in the process.

Child Support

In Colorado, child support is based on strict guidelines dictated by state laws and statutes. The issue of child support is separate and distinct from the issue of parenting time, and child support payments may not be conditioned upon parenting time. Due to these strict laws, it is important to have guidance from an expert attorney throughout the process.

Post Decree Modifications

Have your circumstances changed since your divorce? Have you lost your job? Has your ex-spouse received a salary increase? Did your ex-spouse fail to disclose financial matters during the dissolution of marriage? Once your divorce is finalized, fortunately, not everything in your original separation agreement or parenting plan is set in stone. Courts recognize that circumstances change, and, sometimes, spouses hide income or assets during the divorce process. Depending on the exact circumstances of your case, you may have a variety of options post-decree. In the following sections, we explore your options in modifying maintenance, child support, parenting time, custody, and decision-making, as well as how you can reopen your property division.

Mediation and Arbitration

Mediation and arbitration are perfect options for anyone going through a divorce. Both options allow the partners to take more control in the divorce, as well as keep the process out of court. Not only does Divorce Matters represent clients through mediation and arbitration, but we also have a mediator on staff!

Domestic Violence

Domestic violence happens to people in all classes, statuses, and ranks in life, regardless of age, gender, race, religion, education, profession, or socioeconomic status. The unfortunate reality is that one in four women in the U.S. will experience domestic violence in their lifetime, resulting in an estimated 1.3 million women becoming victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.

Contempt of Court

After having gone through a divorce or once you have some orders from the court, you may at some point find yourself on either end of a contempt of court action if one of the parties is not complying with the orders. If you find yourself on either end of a contempt action, Divorce Matters is here to help!

Unbundled Legal Services

Unbundled legal services are the perfect solution for anyone not ready to jump into full-scale representation. With unbundled services, you can hire an attorney at their hourly rate to help you with specific aspects of your legal troubles, like filing paperwork or gathering documents!

Common-Law Marriage

The state of Colorado allows couples to enter into common law marriage. However, the parameters of common law marriage can be hazy and difficult to understand, just like common law divorce

Appeals

If your case falls under family law, we can help with your appeal!

Prenuptial Agreements

While there are a million things to plan when a couple decides to marry, often the most difficult to discuss with your future partner is the possible need for a prenuptial agreement. While this subject is not the most romantic or exciting part of wedding planning, a couple contemplating marriage in Colorado may need to consider entering into a prenuptial agreement, or a contract before marriage.

Military Divorce

To thank our Military service members, we even offer 10% off of legal fees! This discount is offered to all active and retired service members, veterans, and military spouses.

Thomas Legal Firm

While Divorce Matters only deals in family law, we do have a sister law firm that offers other services. Thomas Law Firm deals with Criminal matters as well as Civil Law matters, including general litigation, civil rights, workers’ compensation, and business defense litigation.

Tips on How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship

Domestic Violence is extremely complex and the first thing to know is that it is never your fault for being mistreated. You deserve respect, love, safety, and happiness, no matter what your abuser might say. That being said, it is also not your fault if you are not yet ready to leave your abusive partner. It is an incredibly difficult thing to do and takes a lot of planning. If you are ready to start planning to leave, hopefully, you will find some of these tips helpful in your planning. Just know that you are not alone and you are right in doing whatever you find necessary in your situation.

Protecting Yourself While Still in Your Home

While you are making your plans to leave, it is important to still be able to keep yourself and your children safe.

  1. Know What Triggers Your Abuser: Pay attention to what sets your abuser off. This could give you time to get out of the house before your abuser gets angry.
  2. Find Safe Spaces: Whether the safe spaces are in your own home or with a neighbor, friend, or family member, know where you can go to hide out for a little while.
  3. Know Who You Can Go To: In relation to the above point, it is important to know who you can go to for help. This can be anyone that you trust and know is able to help you.

Make an Escape Plan

  1. Make and Memorize a List of Contacts: If you may have to leave without many of your belongings, it is important to have phone numbers that you can call from a public phone or a borrowed phone. Include all of your trusted friends, neighbors, and family members that you know you can go to.
  2. Gather Important Documents: Gather any documents you will need to start your life over again and keep them in a safe place. You should include your birth certificate, social security card, driver’s license or ID, and some money. If you have children and will bring them with you, you should gather these same documents for your children.
  3. Pack a “Go Bag”: If it is possible to pack a bag and keep it hidden, do so. Pack some emergency cash and the documents mentioned above, as well as the important phone numbers you have gathered and a few changes of clothes. Do not feel bad if you cannot pack a bag like this. It is not possible for everyone, especially if they are leaving abruptly or in an emergency.

Once You Have Left

  1. Find a Place You Can Stay: Whether that place is with someone you know, love, and trust or at a Domestic Violence or Homeless Shelter, find a place that you will be safe from your abuser. They will often try to find you after you have left.
  2. Change Your Passwords: If your abuser has any access to your accounts, change your passwords. You don’t want them to have access to your social media, bank accounts, etc.
  3. Get a New Phone (Or Change Your Number): This is mostly for your own sense of safety. This way your abuser will not be able to contact you. Keep your new phone number to yourself, except when absolutely necessary.

Call an Attorney

Why would you call an attorney? They can offer a variety of services to you to help you in the case of domestic violence. Here at Divorce Matters, we help domestic violence victims obtain civil protection orders (which people know more commonly as “Restraining Orders”), as well as get divorce proceedings started. Both of these services offer protection to a victim of domestic violence by making their abuse known to the legal system. You can learn more about how an attorney can help a victim of domestic violence by watching Ashlee Shaw Gonzales’ Ask an Attorney video. Please know that if you would like to reach out to Divorce Matters, we are more than happy to make our communications to you discreet. Just let us know about your situation and how you would like to communicate with us to keep you safe.

Domestic Violence Shelters in the Area

Not everyone has family or friends in the area who is able to help them escape a domestic violence situation. It is often an abuser’s goal to cut their victim off from their family and friends. If this is you, know that you still have options to help you get back on your feet. Domestic Violence Shelters are a great option and often offer services to help victims get jobs, new clothes, health services, babysitting, and legal help. Some in the Denver area are listed here:

SafeHouse Denver Domestic Violence Services

Rose Andom Center 

Mary’s Center Women’s Shelter

This Is How The Divorce Process Works and How Long It Will Take

When it comes to divorce most would say they want the process to be over as soon as possible so they can move on with their lives. This inevitably leads everyone to ask “how long will it be until I am officially divorced from my spouse?” A great place to start is our Divorce Timeline, which can be found under the Tools tab on our website. However, we also want to give a more general overview of how long the process might take. The specific circumstances and complexity of your case will determine the timeline, but overall, this is what you can expect the process to look like.

 

When You First File-

 

Once you have filed a Petition for Dissolution of Marriage with the courts in your county, your spouse must be personally served.  Learn more about what to do if you are the one being served divorce papers.

Once your spouse is served, he or she has 21 days (35 for out of state) to file a response. If you and your spouse both want the divorce and sign a petition jointly, the Service/Response step can be ignored. Your spouse may also agree to waive service if you do not file jointly. Just because you sign jointly does not mean the process is complete, and you will still need to follow the rest of the requirements in the process.

 

Once Your Ex Is Served-

 

You have 42 days after the date of filing to set up an initial status conference with the court and submit your financial disclosures. The initial status conference is your first court appearance and is an informal way for both parties and the Court to get on the same page about dates and deadlines in your case. It depends on the county and jurisdiction that you are in as to whether they will schedule a time for your initial status conference automatically once you file, or if you or your attorney have to reach out to the court to schedule your own. The timing for this solely depends on your county’s court and its timeline. You also will need to have your financial disclosures submitted within that 42-day deadline as well.

 

After Initial Status Conference-

 

You have the option to file for Temporary Orders, which is only necessary if there is an immediate conflict that must be addressed while your case is ongoing. Temporary Orders can help with decision making, child support or spousal support, or who will live in the marital residence during the divorce process. Temporary orders will be replaced by permanent orders at the end of your case. A temporary orders hearing, which is a separate court date, must be set to decide this and it will extend your case.

 

Once you’ve had your initial status conference, you and your spouse are then required to attend mediation by the state of Colorado. Everyone who files for divorce in Colorado must attend mediation, with a few exceptions. In rare cases where the parties agree to every issue, it is possible to skip mediation, which would shorten your case. Additionally, you may request mediation be waived in cases of domestic violence.

 

Mediation-

 

Mediation is a formal settlement conference where the mediator (whom you hire) assists in trying to reach a full agreement between you and your ex. If mediation is successful, you will leave with a signed or partial settlement agreement. Then your attorneys draft the final agreements and file the documents with the court.

 

If mediation is not successful, you must either come up with a settlement or prepare to go to trial. If you need to go to trial, this must be scheduled with the court and the timing completely depends on their availability and timeline. This can extend your case; therefore, it is ideal to come up with agreements in mediation or a settlement.

 

Finalized-

 

Your divorce will be finalized once a judge issues a decree of dissolution of marriage which then severs the marriage, and you are no longer married.

 

Post-decree-

 

If a party is not satisfied with the final decision made by the court, then an appeal can be made. There are specific time constraints around appeals, so you will want to speak with your attorney if you wish to appeal any part of your divorce decree.

 

You also may modify certain orders put in place by the courts if circumstances change after the final agreement has been made. Again, you will want to speak with your attorney if you would like to modify any documents or orders post-divorce.

 

Overall, it can be difficult to determine the exact length that it will take to finalize your divorce because every situation is different. Your timeline will depend on the specific circumstances and jurisdiction of your case.

If you have questions about your particular situation or would like to speak with an attorney today, contact us.

Domestic Violence Resources

We know that being a victim of domestic violence is terrifying and can impact every aspect of your life. Here are a few resources for victims and their families to refer to. We are always here to help; you are not alone.
Family Tree
Jefferson County
303-271-6559
Project Safeguard
All counties
303-219-7049
Rose Andom Center
All Counties
720-337-4400
Fort Carson Victim Advocacy Program
(719) 243-7907
National Domestic Violence Hotline
All Counties
800-799-7233

Attorney Brooke Shafranek Answers Your Questions Regarding COVID-19 and How It Affects Your Divorce

Divorce Matters attorney Brooke Shafranek answers questions submitted from the community. https://youtu.be/vQBnBmm3a0U Q. Can I still get a divorce? (0:18) Q. What can I do if I’m experiencing an emergency, such as domestic violence or child abuse? (2:30) Q. Co-parenting, parenting plans, what happens if we need to deviate or I and my ex disagree? (3:04) Q. What will happen with the stimulus checks that the government is sending out? (3:53) Contact us for more information or to schedule a video or phone consultation:  720-542-6142

Dealing with Child Abuse in Colorado

Child abuse is a serious problem around the nation. According to the National Children’s Alliance, about 700,000 children are abused annually, though many more will be abused at least once during their childhood. Abuse can take many forms, including physical or sexual abuse, or emotional terrorism.

If you are in an abusive marriage, your spouse might also be abusing your children. You have options for protecting both yourselves and your children, but you need to take the proper steps. If you are asking yourself “what to do if my child is being abused by my spouse in Colorado,” we are prepared to assist you immediately.

What is a Protection Order?

This is a court order instructing your spouse to do (or refrain from doing) certain things:

  • Move out of the home
  • Limit or prohibit contact with you and the children
  • Not come within a certain distance of you and the children, including the children’s school
  • Not possess a firearm

If your spouse violates the order, the police will pick them up and take them to jail. A judge can also impose other penalties. Under CRS 18-6-803.5, violating a protection order is a misdemeanor offense and carries penalties of up to $5,000 in fines and up to 18 months in jail. A repeat offender faces even more serious consequences.

How Do You Obtain a Protection Order?

C.R.S. § 13-14-103 states that you can get an emergency protection order from a county or district court. When a minor is being abused, you can get the emergency protection order from either the juvenile or district court. Local law enforcement can also request an emergency protection order. This might happen if you call the police during a violent episode.

The court should have standardized forms that you fill out to request a protection order. The clerk should be able to help you find the form you need. However, you can also work with an attorney, which can make things much easier. If you are being abused, remember to get a protection order for yourself in addition to the children.

An emergency order is only good for a limited amount of time. Your spouse will have a chance to object to the protection order at a hearing before a judge issues a permanent protection order. At the hearing, you will need to present evidence of the abuse, such as witness testimony and medical or police records. An emergency order is often a vital first step since it can be issued immediately and provides peace of mind.

How Can a Lawyer Help Me?

A lawyer can make sure that you file your protection order properly. Many abused spouses also request a protection order when they have finally made the courageous choice to end their marriage. Because you might fear your spouse retaliating, you should make sure you have all of your ducks in a row and get a protection order for you and your children.

Divorce Matters can help. We are a Denver law firm specializing in divorce and family law with years of experience obtaining protection orders for our clients. Please contact us today.