One of the most drastic changes to a person’s lifestyle after divorce comes the moment you walk into your home and realize that you live alone. This defining moment can be full of sorrow, anger or both. Adjusting to the bachelor/bachelorette life takes some getting used to, especially when you have been married for many years.
While these negative feelings may be overwhelming at first, you should know that living alone is not the same as being alone. Support and love from family, friends and support groups can help you manage your stress. Here are some tips for recent divorcees on how to transition to your new home life.
- It’s not the end, it’s a new beginning. There is life after divorce.
- When you interact with your ex-spouse, try to redefine your relationship. This is important especially when children are involved. Instead of thinking of your ex as a failed marriage partner, think of him or her as a loving co-parent. After all, you both still have a responsibility to your children to provide a stable, nurturing environment.
- Don’t bottle up your feelings. If you need help, ask for it ”“ there is no shame in reaching out.
- Now is a great time to make your home truly your own. Maybe your living room would look great with an accent wall. Get the kids together and have a painting party. Shop for new dÃ©cor, or finally make those new additions you always thought about before.
- Rededicate yourself to your passions. Maybe you stopped writing when you got married, or maybe you quit school to devote more time to the house. Seize any opportunities you can to put yourself down the right path toward your new life.
You may fear for how the new living situation will affect your kids. In a previous blog we discussed ways in which divorce can make the kids stronger and prepared for the future; check it out or visit our videos section for more divorce information.
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