Last Updated on May 12, 2025 by Divorce Matters
How Do I Start My Divorce
Divorce is a long and difficult process, and it can even be hard to know where to start. Whether you’re still deciding to proceed or you’ve already made up your mind, getting organized early on can help reduce stress and confusion later. Emotions can run high, and the legal steps may feel overwhelming at first. But with the right preparation and support, the process can become more manageable. This blog post will give you a general idea of what documents to gather, how to begin the process, and what to expect during those first important steps.
Step One: Contact an Attorney
First thing’s first, we always recommend calling a lawyer. Not only us, but the American Bar Association suggests that “you should talk with a lawyer about major life events or changes, which might include a divorce.” We know that seems obvious coming from a law firm, but we’re not alone in thinking so! Just read what one of our reviewers has to say:
“I started my divorce by myself…huge mistake.”
Working with an attorney ensures that your rights are protected from the very beginning. Divorce can quickly become complicated – especially if children, shared property, or business interests are involved. Legal professionals help you navigate these challenges and avoid costly missteps. If you’re filing for divorce in Colorado, it’s especially important to understand the state-specific laws and timelines, as they can differ significantly from other states.
When you reach out to our firm, our Client Relations Specialists will match you with the attorney that is right for your situation and personality for your initial consultation. Your consultation will allow you to meet with your attorney, ask them any questions you might have, and discuss pricing so you can plan accordingly. You can learn more about our attorneys and their experience here.
Step Two: Try to Reach Agreement Early If Possible
Aside from hiring an attorney, there are a few things that you can do that will help to streamline the process. One of the best things you can do is try and have an open conversation about what you both want. Your divorce will be the simplest if you and your ex can both come to an agreement on what each of you wants and needs out of the process, including:
- Division of property
- Custody and parenting time
- Child and or spousal support
- Who will remain in the marital home
We understand that not every couple is on speaking terms, and some situations may not allow for a civil conversation. But if communication is possible, even partial agreements can significantly reduce the time and cost involved when filing for divorce in Colorado – making the process less stressful and more predictable for everyone involved.
Step Three: Gather Essential Documents
If you cannot come to an agreement, the best course of action is to start compiling the necessary paperwork. Your attorney will need documentation to accurately assess your financial picture and help you move forward with negotiations or litigation. This paperwork can include:
- Credit card statements
- Childcare bills
- Utility bills
- Loan documentation
- Medical bills or statements
- Income and tax statements
- Retirement accounts and statements
- Investment account information
- Vehicle information
- Appraisals for major assets
It is important to note that these documents will be needed whether you can come to an agreement with the other party or not. Don’t stress if you don’t have every piece right away – but the more information you can gather early, the better prepared your attorney will be to advocate for you. When filing for divorce in Colorado, courts require both parties to make full financial disclosures. Having these documents ready ahead of time helps your case move faster and reduces stress throughout the process.
Step Four: Document Communication in Writing
In addition to the paperwork, it is important to start documenting your communication with the other party. The best way to do this is by only communicating in writing – text, emails, etc. This is especially important if there are children involved, as this documentation will be important in court proceedings, especially if you consider the other parent to be unfit or a danger to your child or children. Even in amicable situations, written communication avoids confusion and provides a clear record of what was said and agreed upon. Clear, consistent documentation can help protect your interests and provide valuable evidence should any disputes arise later in the process.
If you’re filing for divorce in Colorado, having well-documented interactions can also strengthen your case in areas like parenting time and decision-making responsibilities.
Step Five: Take Care of Yourself Emotionally
While the legal and logistical aspects are important, don’t forget that divorce takes an emotional toll. You may experience grief, anger, confusion, or anxiety—often all at once. Seeking support through a therapist, counselor, or support group can help you manage the emotional side of things while staying focused on practical steps. If you have children, this emotional support can also help you be more present and available for them as they navigate the changes in their lives.
Many people going through the process of filing for divorce in Colorado find emotional support especially valuable, as the legal system, court deadlines, and negotiations can often feel overwhelming. It is important to seek support from family, friends, and even a therapist to help you get through this difficult time and focus on growing for your future.
Step Six: Consider Your Future Needs
As you prepare for divorce, it’s also helpful to think beyond the paperwork and toward your long-term future. Ask yourself questions like:
- Will I need to move?
- Do I want to keep the house, or sell it?
- Will I be financially independent, or will I need support?
- How will parenting time be shared, and how flexible can I be?
- What does my ideal outcome look like?
Knowing what you want helps your attorney advocate more effectively on your behalf. It also empowers you to make informed decisions during negotiations, rather than reacting out of fear or emotion. Understanding your goals early is especially important when filing for divorce in Colorado, as the legal process can move quickly once deadlines are set. Divorce Matters® partners with several industry professionals to help you with any of these questions you may have. Learn more about them here.
Step Seven: Contact Divorce Matters®
Divorce isn’t easy, but starting with a solid foundation can make the journey less overwhelming. With the right legal team and the right preparation, you can move forward with clarity, confidence, and control.
At Divorce Matters®, we know how emotionally and financially stressful this process can be—and we’re here to make it as smooth as possible. Our team of experienced family law attorneys understands the unique challenges of filing for divorce in Colorado, and we provide the compassionate, knowledgeable support you need to make empowered decisions every step of the way.
With offices across Colorado—including Denver, Boulder, Colorado Springs, Castle Rock, Centennial, and Fort Collins—we’re proud to serve individuals and families throughout the state. Whether your case involves custody, property division, alimony, or complex financial assets, we have the experience and local insight to guide you through.
If you’re ready to take the first step in filing for divorce in Colorado, we’re here to help. Contact us today to schedule your consultation. We’re here to protect what matters most—your future.