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How a Vengeful Divorce Can Backfire


BLOGS The Dos and Donts of Divorce Parties Photo 01270966xA779BEmotions can run high during a divorce. In the heat of the moment, you might decide that you want revenge for wrongs that your ex committed against you, but we urge you to think before you act! Often, these vengeful acts only make matters worse. Pulling a dirty trick against your ex will create animosity at best and could invite a similar response at worst. This can lead to a cycle of hurt and anger for both parties involved. So before you do any of the following, take a step back and think about the repercussions:

  1. Don’t take everything and leave! When your spouse returns home to find the house empty, all you have done is made the situation that much worse.
  2. Don’t cancel the credit cards! When you file a divorce petition in Colorado, an injunction is automatically placed that prevents you from canceling the cards. You also cannot close bank accounts, cut off utilities or cancel insurance policies.
  3. Don’t try to get your spouse fired. What if you decide you need spousal support or child support? It’s going to be awfully difficult to get those payments if your spouse is out of a job.
  4. Don’t try to move out of state with the kids. Colorado law says you cannot, but that should not be the only reason you follow this rule.
  5. Don’t falsely accuse your spouse of child abuse. If there is a real possibility of abuse, take the issue to a legal professional before filing. Remember, these allegations can go both ways.
  6. Don’t try to embarrass your spouse by having them served with summons or subpoenas in a public place. Furthermore, don’t try to embarrass him or her using social media ”“ once something is on the Internet, it’s on there forever. And your spouse’s lawyer will be watching.

Vengeful tactics might give you temporary satisfaction, but in the long run they only cause more problems. Consider divorce mediation if tensions get high between you and your spouse.

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