The divorce process is can be challenging and costly for all parties. Mediation is providing couples with an easier path through the emotional process. This guide will help you identify ways to manage the amount of stress most men experience during the divorce process.
1. Attachment Issues Immediately Following Separation.
Managing stress for your family is going to take a greater toll during the initial separation. Mediation can help make a smooth transition because you will have an expert opinion from an attorney or professional counselor that will be a neutral third party to help resolve conflicts. Yes, you can still have your personal attorney with you.
2. Communication Is Key.
Communication is going to play a major factor in more ways than one. Make sure you clearly communicate with you children and let them know how the separation will affect them. Make sure this explanation is age appropriate. During mediation you will get a clear idea of where things are going, this will help you understand the whole process.
3. Don’t Let Divorce Take Over.
While you are sorting out details with your partner, make sure you don’t lose track of what’s going on in the rest of your world. Don’t let little details fall through the cracks; you might not notice, but eventually it will come back to haunt you. Divorce can be a life encompassing event. Try not to let it pre-occupy your mind, stay present and focus on controlling the factors you are capable of controlling. Mediation will give you set times to work on issues, use this time wisely.
4. Make The Extra Effort.
While you might be stressed and resentful of your partner, don’t let that creep into your parental relationships. Make the extra effort to spend quality time with your children so they know, even if they don’t see you every day, they are still on the top of your priority list. Making a strong effort to work cooperatively during mediation will also benefit your family and reduce stress.
5. Ask For Help.
Don’t hesitate to reach out for support during the transition period. Men tend to face greater emotional problems than women for reasons like loss of intimacy, loss of social connection, reduced finances, and the disruption of the parental role. Speaking with a professional can help reduce stress and have a positive impact on your new family life.
6. Compromise.
You may want to fight tooth and nail for every detail of the separation agreement, make sure what you fight for is a worthy cause. Try not to get wrapped up in the emotional side of the divorce and help encourage a smooth transition, for all parties involved. This may be easier said than done, but mediation can help keep things moving down the middle of the road.
The divorce process is stressful for everyone involved. Using tools like mediation, professional advice, and taking a step back can have positive impacts on your entire life. If you would like to speak with someone about your divorce, we will be happy to help. We have a wealth of experience dealing with all parts of the divorce and mediation processes.
If you would like to speak with an attorney about divorce, mediation, or reducing stress related to the divorce process, we can be reached at (720) 542-6142.