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Dealing with Regret after Divorce

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b2ap3_thumbnail_Sad-Parent-with-Child-2.jpgDivorce can be full of regret. You might feel as though you could have done more to save your marriage. You might regret things you said before, during and after the divorce. You might even regret going through with the divorce.

You don’t have to keep living with remorse; after all, a life full of regret is hardly a life at all. No matter how bad you feel about what was said or unsaid, done or not done, moving beyond regret is a healthy and necessary part of divorce recovery.

The first thing you must accept is that you make decisions based on what you know at the moment. Hindsight is 20/20, they say, and it is easy to get enveloped with the idea of what could have been. Try to remember what it was like when you made the decision, and then decide now what you want to do. Do you want your ex back? Do you want to start dating again? Do you want to take the kids to Disneyworld or kick back with some ice cream, friends and a good movie? Deciding how to move forward helps you put your regrets in the past. When you are looking back, you can’t see what’s up ahead.

Try to learn a lesson from whatever caused your regrets. There will come a time where you will be in a similar situation as before ”“ a fight with a significant other, or a conversation where you say something you did not mean. Applying the knowledge of what went wrong in the past allows you to avoid similar scenarios moving forward.

Learn. Act. Forgive and keep your eyes forward to the new days ahead.

Divorce Matters ”“ Denver Family Law Attorneys